Invitation Etiquette and Tips

Invitation Etiquette (3)

Hi there!

Today I am sharing wedding invitation etiquette that is so important to remember and also some helpful tips! Choosing stationary is one of my favorite things to do in the planning process. An invite will tell the recipient a great deal about what to expect at your big day. Whether you want your wedding to be formal, classic, fun or modern, you can incorporate these details right into the invitation. While the design selection can be really enjoyable, many of my couples have questions about how to address, when to send and what to include. I am happy to answer some of those questions for you and I will put these tips in bullet style to make it a bit easier.


  • Order your invitations about 4 months in advance. Mail them out 6-8 weeks from your date; 12 weeks for any out of the country guests or for a destination wedding.
  • Send save-the-date cards 6-12 months before. I think 9 months is the perfect amount of time.
  • No punctuation on the invitation is needed except for after Mr. and Mrs.
  • Spell out all numbers. Example: 17 Kings Lane would need to be Seventeen Kings Lane
  • Leave off zip codes on the actual invitation card
  • Always include postage on the response card envelope
  • “and guest” sounds better than “plus one”
  • Include registry information on shower invite or or wedding website only. It is not recommended to include this on the wedding invitation or save the date.
  • Guests appreciate knowing the proper dress code. You can include this on the lower right hand corner of the reception card.
  • Make the RSVP date 3-4 weeks from your wedding date.
  • “The honour of your presence” should be included when the ceremony will be at a House of Worship. “The pleasure of your company” is a great choice for other venues.
  • Thank you notes should be mailed 2 weeks from the day a gift is received.

After you have your invitations addressed and ready to mail, (P.S. It is SO excited to have these in your hands and know your wedding day is approaching), now you will need to do two things. Take them to your local post office to have one complete invitation weighed to ensure you are using the correct postage. Then ask them to please hand cancel your invites. They will stamp them personally instead of putting them through a machine where they could get damaged.


I hope this blog post was helpful to you!! Have a wonderful rest of the week and happy planning!!


All wedding invitation photos on this post are from one of my very favorite vendors – Shine Wedding Invitations. They have gorgeous font choices, menu cards, name cards and much more to match your invitation design. 


5 Comments on Invitation Etiquette and Tips

  1. Cody Lowery
    August 26, 2015 at 4:25 pm (2 years ago)

    I had no idea about any of these..thanks for the tips! Lovely invites as well. 🙂 Very pretty and elegant blog!

  2. Ashton
    August 26, 2015 at 4:54 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this. Great for me as a photographer AND a future bride. 🙂

  3. Marie
    August 26, 2015 at 7:10 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you Cody and Ashton!! I really appreciate your kind words.

  4. Jill
    August 26, 2015 at 7:32 pm (2 years ago)

    Such helpful tips for brides and planners! And your website is BEAUTIFUL!

  5. Marie
    August 26, 2015 at 7:43 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you SO much, Jill!! That is really sweet! Made my day =)


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